Day6

Well, today is DAY6!!!

Right now I’m at work, but in less than fifteen minutes I’m going to take a break. I’ll invest one hour to make the rounds through my town. It’s late midday and the sun is shining – best conditions. I’ll approach eight women and say something nice … that’s it! I’m not going for whatever-close. I’ll just wait as long as it is natural, so if she is willing to react, she will get a chance.

To complete that mission today, I decided yesterday during one of my midnight-strolls. This is just fucking over-due and I definitly want to complete SLC this summer!

Yesterday I watched a part of Tyler Durden’s RSD-Seminars … and I just love that guy!

Eight women and I will compliment on whatever … I know from experience that 60 minutes isn’t too long. So I’ll have to hurry … I'm already wondering about how I’m going to handle that. I’ll post my report afterwards.

Okay … let’s go! (Yes my hands are moisty and I feel nervous … :-)

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DONE!

Okay, so in advance to raise no expectations … no close at all – nothing! But … again a really interesting and mind-staggering experience after four month of abstinence from day-time-cold-approach-training. I actually approached more or less successfully eleven women, that was about 50% of all good-looking women who were not in company with a man.

#1: she passed me – I looked at her and snapped, about to say “nice shirt” – but during that , she turned her head away and probably didn’t take any notice of me at all.

#2: a she passes me I say “nice top!” – she reacts with cautious “mhm”

I’m realizing, that I have to get somewhat more attention in advance, especially when the girl is passing me and is not expecting to be approached by a stranger.

#3: she passes me … “nice necklace!” … nothing.

#4: she passes me – “the shirt looks good on you!”. Wow … she actually smiled!

#5: In a book store. She’s looking at a book. I approach her from the side “your bag looks good on you!” she: “what!” (as she didn’t understand me) me repeating what I said. She sais “Thanks” and smiles.

Well, I also should speak loud and clear! …

#6: I snap … “your shirt looks very good on you!” … nothing but slight smile

I’m beginning to wonder wheather snapping is the appropriate means for getting attention.

#7: She’s distributing postcards among the passengers and wants to give me one. I refuse … “Thanks but you look really nice today!” … somwhat cautious “thanks”.
Afterwards I wondered if the word today could be perceived as critical, as today means “maybe not yesterday” … doesn’t matter. I mean that was weird at all :-D

#8: “nice shirt!” … slight smile

Now, I’m realizing that I’ve got a blockade. I always get that during those missions and the important exercise is to over come this blockade.

#9: A two set in the outdoor area of a café. I approach them smiling “Sorry, I don’t want to interrupt you. But I have to say, you are the most beautiful girl I’ve seen today!”. EC! She says something like “Oh … well …. So, thanks …”. me: “have a nice day”
Sometimes I really would like to have a cam pointing on me for analyzation afterwards. I also wondered if “girl” was the right term to use, as she was rather a woman than a girl … but on the other hand, there was no right or wrong term I think … I’m sure I came across as a mixture of weird and cute.
And … one shouldn't ignore the targets company, especially if it’s a 2-set!

#10: drugstore … I see her entering it … I follow her … I tap her shouler (yeah KINO) and say “well, that pretzel looks phantastic on you!” … she seems somewhat bemused and says thanks.
Nice opener though!

#11: same drugstore … I say “Those shoes look really cool!”. Funny thing is, this time I was actually somewhat stuttering, but it was my only honest compliment this day!

So what can I learn from this day? Well, I’ve to say that I really never did something like that before. All completed missions were pretty different from this. It was a special lesson on fighting approach anxiety. But I still understand my hesitations, as doing this is not very much my kind of style. But on the other hand that’s no reason not to do it, as it is instructive and give’s me more experience. I’m pretty sure I could have done better … I mean anything else would have been better ;-) Again I realized it’s not so much what you say but how you say it.

If you have EC in advance and you are smiling you will always get a “Thank you!”.

The most important thing for me is … I fucking did it! I just did it … BAM … and now I’m proceeding in the SLC.

There are many further sources I want to try practically after this – especially Mystery-Method, DeAngelo-C&F-Style, Gunwitch …
I’m not willing to deny my personality … I’m seeing this stuff as experiments from which I will take certain elements and install them in my behaviour/personality … but only in a congruent way!

I’m also starting to get a more clear picture of why I’m doing this. I think it’s 50% for sexual reasons and another 50% for defeating THE FEAR … maybe this is even more important to me. I hate fear, I hate it to be afraid of something I know it’s not worth to be afraid of. And there is definitly no reason to be afraid of a beautiful woman! But also I’m realizing that this topic isn’t about women actually … it’s about society, about status-thinking and about the most inner part of my soul!

CU

goofed Day6

okay ... as I'm anonymous anyway I'll be just straight honest. yesterday was a total mess ... a disaster. I didn't fulfill my mission and I fucked up my date ... I don't know what happend to me but in the middle of our so far entertaining conversation I got sucked up in a state of hyper-introversion ... I don't want to analyze now why that happend but the result was that I canceled the meeting quite abrubtly and said good bye. well, she's nice but I don't think she'll understand that.

but before the date I strolled through the city realizing that I'm just not able to give a compliment to a woman I'm not emotionally connected to ... maybe I'm too much of a perfectionist but there was something within me strictly refusing a to give a compliment without being totally honest ... ?! even when I saw a woman garbed individually I had no idea how to produce a compliment out of what I saw. I mean most girls don't garb in a way worth to be complimented - they just copy each other ...

on the other hand I don't want to lay the blame on womankind for my disabilities! maybe I should have just walk up to ten women in a row telling them "nice shoes!" and see what happens ... I'm pretty sure I should have done that at least.

I'm not going to give up on Day6 ... forget it! I already did several cold approaches ... I can do that too! but these problems brought me pretty much to a core question ... do I want to lie for the sake of women?

at least I discoverd a new way of scanning people around me. as I wanted to detect a woman as soon as possible to observe her and create a compliment, I discoverd that it's very interesting not to focus on people 10m away but more than 100m ... that's a totally new perspective.

well I did a actually one cold approach ... the best about it was that I DID it ... the rest ... oh my god (a real classic fucked up first cold approach in three months) :-D

many very fruitful phases of my life begun with such days ... I can do it - and I will!

planning Day6

... I'm back!!!!!! well, at least for tomorrow ... there is a girl, well, and I really really like her and I like her more every morning - so I don't know how that's going to affect my "game".

tomorrow I'm going to have a non-romantic date with the very same lady from Day2 (she's still in her 3yrs-LTR). So I'm not going for a KC but for an entertaining evening - whatever that means. her personality is somewhat different from mine, so I thought to myself a little warm-up in advance will be of good use for rapport-building with her. last time it worked not too bad and now that I haven't been in any high-voltage communication-state for a long time I might depend on it.

so what will I do ... complimenting women ... really I have no idea why, but high-speed-generation of honest and individual compliments is none of my stregths. and that's a damn shame! because after having read the Day6-challenge I immediately realized the importance of this skill ... on the other hand I originally drew my date's attention on me by giving her a compliment about her scarf during a tutorial in front of more than twenty students - yeah ... that's irony.
... there is hope!

tomorrow I will pay an honest compliment to at least eight attractive women!
- one woman before work
- one woman during work
- five women anywhere
- my date

I will compliment bearing in my mind:
- I'm not expecting anything back ... not even a "thank you" - NOTHING!
- I won't sustain the approach ...
- I won't run away after giving the compliment / I'll give her a chance to react
- if she reinitiates communications I'll go for a name/#-close (business as usual)
- when I give the compliment I'll look straight into her eyes (color?)
- and I won't forget about fucking kinoing - kino kino kino !!!

tomorrow I'll write down my experience ... ;-)

Day 5

hey!

well, I'm not going to do the clothing-mission for several reasons.
1) I'm dressed pretty okay anyway
2) it would be too expensive
3) there are no REALLY cool shops around and I definitly don't trust the shop assistants in them
4) I'm pretty actively working on my clothing-style all the time - more and more intensive

well ... grooming is already getting a serious obsession!
my latest grooming-modification is using an extra towel for my face to keep bacteria away from it.
I'm also about to get me a real good (expensive too) electric razor for cleaner face and also less irritations of my skin.
also M- and P-curing got already kinda hobby ...
yeaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah ... and I got me Jean-Paul Gaultier ... Le Male :-)

grooming and fashion is already part of my reality ...

CU

Day 4

as promised I put it behind me ...

again I changed my mission somewhat. instead of asking some women about shops I just did six situational approaches.

well ... I don't know ... today was somewhat different as I didn't kino at all, I wasn't in any real mood for flirting or sarging ... I just opened the sylph (new word ... !) and tried very calmly to transfer some sympathy to her. I didn't even name-close - I could have, of course ... maybe - I didn't care ...

all in all I'm satisfied with my performance. again my confidence reached some very high level to the end - how should I say ... there was just no sexual power within me.
but I'm working on this too ... inspired by some Ijjjji-posts (highly recommended) on mASF I'm trying to raise my testosterone-level. In general I'm experimenting currently quite a lot with several lifestyle-related topics - in deed I bought a bottle of apple cidar vinegar ... you know how that smells - I'm willing to do anything ;-)

1) small shop
opener: "well, this shop is quite new, isn't it?" (as if I hadn't noticed it so far - I looked at some postcards when I said that and afterwards I pretended I was searching for a present)

2) book shop
looking at some cookbooks I said: "there are just too many cookbooks ..." little convo ... good bye

3) shop with electro-stuff
two girls watching cell phones ... blablabla ... I say to one of 'em ... "well my cell phone has to have snake on it" ... said it quite calm ... she looked at me trifle bemused ... I smiled back ... she smiled ... that's it.

4) two girls sitting on the stairs in front of the theater
I asked something analogous to wheather it's okay if I sit down beside her. me:"well that's a nice place in the sun - isn't it a wonderful day (referring to the great weather)" blablabla so far ... "I have to go. have nice day"

5) ALDI-shop
... I opened with my opinion about some muesli ... this time I got the most positive feedback ... she even seemed to flush a little ... well, that's me, I could have built on that ... but I didn't want to - but silly as I am I would have liked to want to ... fuck it.

I left the shop pass a girl ... EC ... she smiles first ... I smile back ... again, that's it. It's even harder for me to open a girl if I get IOI ... that's my personal paradoxon! actually, I can't remember any incident where I would have drawn the male conclusions of getting serious IOIs ... this is also just another reason why I consider this PU-stuff as kinda behavior therapy ...

6) library
she looked very sexy ... studies the laws ... I approached her with "do you want to learn italian?" as she was in the "learn italian" section. well, she even asked me what I study ... oh great, I'm so proud ... goodbye

again I got some IOIs by a cute girl but I had to get my bus.

there's no sense in critisizing my mission ... I failed totally in getting connected ... kinoing would have been the first thing to do ... more positive vibes ... more EC ... next time! DAY 5!

but once again I learned - women don't bite ... if I am cool ... they are cool ... everything is cool!
(just like two little fonzies?!)

many thoughts in my brain ... but I'm too tired for further writing on this blog ... need sleep -> more T!!!

see you ;-)

break

hey everybody! (or nobody - i don't know ... :-D )
anyway ... I took a break from my SLC as I'm currently too introverted and too much in kinda brown study for any serious PU-action ...
but the show must go on and it will!
CU

Day 3

hey!

I called one random person in my town and ... what this very woman was unfortunatly the most unsympathetic person I ever spoke to on the phone. as I was handling this totally cool anyway I just skipped that part.

I also skipped the not-showering and not-shaving part because I involuntarily did this in the past anyway. so I know what happens ... nothing.

Day 2

hey everybody!

well I had two just damn amazing approaches today - and I have my (Stylelife Challenge) #-close!

1) ? / green / street
this was my warm-up. i just asked for some directions. did my kino. had some laughs...

2) ? / brown / street
well that's a bad one! I'm not proud of it - let's file it under desensitization ...
i walk up to a two set - one of 'em having a cigarette. "can I have a cigarette?". okay she gave me one. so what did I do? I break it in half and say "well, you're lucky, this one might have killed you" - laughed and walk away. their reaction was shocked but cautious.
I don't like this one - I didn't feel well afterwards - it just suddenly popped into my mind.

3) Laura / brown / H&M (clothing-store)
well that's the big one! i see her. i grab three pairs of socks - walk up to her holding them behind my back - "well, hey! sorry, this is somewhat emberrassing to me - but I'm really desperate - I need socks, you know - but I just don't know which pair would be best ... what do you think?" from there I went on. it proceeded just perfect - I was funny and totally confident! I completely forgot about my environment! well, so she gave me her number. later we met again - by chance - again I realized that this town is just too small! but that was very nice actually. we talked sitting on a bench - it was just great - she's really cute!

4) Julia / blue-green / book-store
this one was even more perfect than the one before - just scaringly perfect. the new experience. mind-staggering for me! there she was - having about six books in her arms! and yet she was pretty attractive ... so thats an easy one - I just said "so you like to read, don't you... ;-)" we talked about books of course starting from there to more private topics which are related. I just loved the hole situation - I really enjoyed it and she did, too. well ... she has a boy-friend. (this time I answerd to her stating that she got boy-friend by saying that I'm gay anyway...). I gave her my number ...

5) ? / green / book-store
sympathetic girl. had a violin with her and was examining books about photoshop and comics. so I said "you want to paint comics?". well, to me it was fun ... but I didn't get a real converstation going. again - i DON'T think "i guess i'm not attractive or pleasent" - i thought "uhm... I'm sorry for her being so shy and reserved towards an obviously charming guy like me" ... i really think that ... she was shy ... I wished her a nice evening and good-bye.

the date went on pretty well - but shes in a LTR for three years now.

good night!

planning Day 2

well ... so tomorrow it's basically gonne be once again the same thrill!
it's silly but now that i once did it i feel more nervous in advance - but actually in a somewhat vital and positive way.

this additional exercise to figure out the eye colour of my female stylelife-buddy is a very good idea i think. because then you have to make rather too intensive eye-contact than too shallow - depending on light and such.

for tomorrow i'll try to #- or instant-date-close (or the like) as often as possible! or at least to do my best to maintain the contact afterwards - in whatever way.

also i will attach more importance on kino. i kinoed today, but definitly not too much...

anyway this is gonne be a great opportunity to get me warmed up for my date in the evening. as far as i know she got a boy-friend and so i plan to have a great evening with brain-closeing, heart-closeing but not necessarily kiss-closeing or more ;-)

good night!

Day 1

hey everybody!

i fully completed my mission and it was indeed a very interesting experience.

in the past i have already approached women on the street successfully. but those approaches have been rather spontaneously. that's the first time in my life that i planned doing this. honestly, today i wasnt that much in the right mood to do that, as i am bit tired and so. but it was definitly the right decision.

so i took the bus to the local main station. went inside the building ...

1) Anna / book-,magazine-store within the building
she's looking at postcards. i position myself beside her examining the postcards myself.
then i open with "that's a nice postcard" (it was a very boring card indeed, so it was meant funny). first she remained somewhat self-contained. we talked and i figured out that she needs a present for a friend who leaves germany for australia - so this present should remind him of germany. i made some suggestions and she especially warmed up, when i suggested her composing a CD with german musicians. well, it was a nice talk. not sure if she would have given me her number. i didn't try to #-close as i lost my interest in her during the conversation - she was sympathetic, but too young and not my type.
Great Warm-Up!

2) Romina / street, infront of a phone-shop window with handies layed out
she was looking at the handies. i walk beside her and say "that's a nice handy". well somewhat like before. we start talking about handies, what she's working and such. then we both realize, that we've talked before ;-) well, damn it, i approached her some months ago when she was waiting for a bus at the main station. so chances are she considers me a weardo (well 200'000 is not too big i guess - her hair was red back then). i offered her having a coffee with me - but she refused ... job. well i gave her my number ...
but again i think the conversation went very well. also i started to feel very confident - that was amazing! no nervousness will be there during the next approaches!

handy means cell-phone!

3) Johanna / sitting on a bench in front of a mall and ... waiting for her boy-friend :-(
so that was a special one. all women i approached today were good-looking but she was really damn good-looking! so that's what happened. she sits on the bench listening to music.
i didn't walk up to her straight, but more indirect to make it seem more spontaneous. i pretended walking past her, ignoring her and then suddenly stopped by her side and asked her "Hey. Sorry but do you have a tissue for me?". She says no - smiling of course and refers me to the nearby subway. well, i didn't figure on this. so i leave her, enter the subway and get me a napkin. i go back to her opening again with something like "wow ... fortunatly i got one ... actually i just pretended to be the son of gerhard schröder (former german chancelor) - otherwise i might have had to buy something". well she laughed and i think i went on talking about what music shes listening to (House). she actually agread to let me listen it with her ear-phones and what i considered very funny - she was worried that the piece of music she plays to me might be not good enough - so, first, she searched for a nice one. again it was a very relaxed and funny conversation. when she gave me her hand because of exchanging our names, she even let hers longer in mine. but just when i tried to #-close her boyfriend came back. i greeted him smiling from distance and walked on.
now my confidence was on the top. this one i liked the best today!

4) young mother searching for a book for her 3 year old child
she was looking at some books for children. i took "momo" and said "that's a very nice book for children". she agreed and we had a nice little chat about books for children - i got my theories about that, so i didn't have to lie about that. that's all.

5) Nadine / Eating pizza outside a PizzaHut
Well she was also damn good-looking! Very sexy - nice hair-cut - well, she works at Zara. this was quite a funny one - and i couldn't have done it that way without my priviously gained confidence. i walk up to her - again not straight - but indirect. and i say something like "oh hey ... sorry ... this is very galling to me ... but i have no money with me and i'm very hungry! would let me have a bite from your pizza?" you know what! she gave me her salami-pizza! but as i didn't actually wanted to eat something i tried to refuse by admitting that i am a vegetarian (i really am). so she put off the salami and i ate that pizza and we had a smalltalk ;-) after a while i said goodbye and went off.

6) ? / in a bus
well that was a nasty one - but it didnt felt nasty at all! she sits aside from me. i start with "do you know if this bus drives to the university?". well she obviously wasnt a student and actually right at that point i knew that any converstation would lead me nowhere. but you know what ... i didn't care ... and the bus was fully seated and there would be people overhearing us. it just didnt matter to me. so i got me a gum and went on with "you want one?" - well of course not. so i told her about the benefots of eating gum - neutralizing of acids ... blablabla ... that conversation was pretty handicapped ... i didnt even consider her behaviour rude or something. actually i pittied her for narrowing herself with her concrete-like bitch shield.

there have been further spontaneous conversations and such with the old women selling the tickets for the local theaters (as i do have a date tomorrow anyway with a beautiful lady) a (male) student at the bus and a girl at the central.

after this mission i felt real good and i was extremely communicative. and i wouldnt have been if i hadnt overcome my inhibitions today. i'm thinking about doing this regularly ... independent from Stylelife Challenge.



Critics:
1) i should have tried to #-close anyway - just for testing.
2) well, maybe i should have just greeted her by her name ...
3) should have asked her for her last name, as i know she's at StudiVZ
4) that was okay
5) i dont think she would have given me her number ... but i should have given her mine, remarking that i do owe her a favor
6) she said "you seem to be searching for someone to talk to or a girlfriend"
i answerd somewhat like "well, yes of course, why not :-)"
she replied "but i have a boy-friend"
and i said "you know i meant girl-friend in a more platonic sense" (i didnt actally say platonic, as i dont think she knows that word)
instead i should have replied somewhat like "no problem, i'm gay anyway ... ;-)" that would have been more funny.

i liked that day!!!

planning Day 1

hey!

this will be fun tomorrow :)

as i am not too uncomfortable with women i'll restrict my field-mission to attractive women.

as you see i've already read my tomorrow's exercise, because i think it will do good to sleep over it.

also i know from past experiences that i tend to reject before i get rejected (as well as woody allen i guess - 'do it again sam'). i start to feel uncomfortable when i am not absolutely sure wheather the woman enjoys the conversation. i know rationally for several reasons that this is absolutely unnessecary. even in the unlike cause that she really is bored - you know - it's very very important that a woman learns to say "no"!
so it will be a good thing for her too - anyway ;-)

so i will keep the conversation alive until she stops it!

good night!

what's going on?

hey everybody!

i just got myself the new neil strauss book "the stylelife challenge" and i'm looking forward to working through it.

the results of every day i'll post here and i'll be glad with any comments, ideas, suggestions, advices, inspirations and thoughts. so feel free to share it!

to reach a wider audience i'll post in english. but as i am from germany (a town with about 200'000 habitants), please be gracious with me. this little mission is also gonna help me improve my english, as well as you know what i mean.

i'm quite a fan of mASF and its concept of sharing thoughts and learning from each other. also i'm pretty sure that this way will somewhat boost my motivation to really get the most out of this book.

on mASF you will also finde me by my nickname WhitePoloShirt.

so thank you in advance!

cu later ;-)