Well, today is DAY6!!!
Right now I’m at work, but in less than fifteen minutes I’m going to take a break. I’ll invest one hour to make the rounds through my town. It’s late midday and the sun is shining – best conditions. I’ll approach eight women and say something nice … that’s it! I’m not going for whatever-close. I’ll just wait as long as it is natural, so if she is willing to react, she will get a chance.
To complete that mission today, I decided yesterday during one of my midnight-strolls. This is just fucking over-due and I definitly want to complete SLC this summer!
Yesterday I watched a part of Tyler Durden’s RSD-Seminars … and I just love that guy!
Eight women and I will compliment on whatever … I know from experience that 60 minutes isn’t too long. So I’ll have to hurry … I'm already wondering about how I’m going to handle that. I’ll post my report afterwards.
Okay … let’s go! (Yes my hands are moisty and I feel nervous … :-)
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DONE!
Okay, so in advance to raise no expectations … no close at all – nothing! But … again a really interesting and mind-staggering experience after four month of abstinence from day-time-cold-approach-training. I actually approached more or less successfully eleven women, that was about 50% of all good-looking women who were not in company with a man.
#1: she passed me – I looked at her and snapped, about to say “nice shirt” – but during that , she turned her head away and probably didn’t take any notice of me at all.
#2: a she passes me I say “nice top!” – she reacts with cautious “mhm”
I’m realizing, that I have to get somewhat more attention in advance, especially when the girl is passing me and is not expecting to be approached by a stranger.
#3: she passes me … “nice necklace!” … nothing.
#4: she passes me – “the shirt looks good on you!”. Wow … she actually smiled!
#5: In a book store. She’s looking at a book. I approach her from the side “your bag looks good on you!” she: “what!” (as she didn’t understand me) me repeating what I said. She sais “Thanks” and smiles.
Well, I also should speak loud and clear! …
#6: I snap … “your shirt looks very good on you!” … nothing but slight smile
I’m beginning to wonder wheather snapping is the appropriate means for getting attention.
#7: She’s distributing postcards among the passengers and wants to give me one. I refuse … “Thanks but you look really nice today!” … somwhat cautious “thanks”.
Afterwards I wondered if the word today could be perceived as critical, as today means “maybe not yesterday” … doesn’t matter. I mean that was weird at all :-D
#8: “nice shirt!” … slight smile
Now, I’m realizing that I’ve got a blockade. I always get that during those missions and the important exercise is to over come this blockade.
#9: A two set in the outdoor area of a café. I approach them smiling “Sorry, I don’t want to interrupt you. But I have to say, you are the most beautiful girl I’ve seen today!”. EC! She says something like “Oh … well …. So, thanks …”. me: “have a nice day”
Sometimes I really would like to have a cam pointing on me for analyzation afterwards. I also wondered if “girl” was the right term to use, as she was rather a woman than a girl … but on the other hand, there was no right or wrong term I think … I’m sure I came across as a mixture of weird and cute.
And … one shouldn't ignore the targets company, especially if it’s a 2-set!
#10: drugstore … I see her entering it … I follow her … I tap her shouler (yeah KINO) and say “well, that pretzel looks phantastic on you!” … she seems somewhat bemused and says thanks.
Nice opener though!
#11: same drugstore … I say “Those shoes look really cool!”. Funny thing is, this time I was actually somewhat stuttering, but it was my only honest compliment this day!
So what can I learn from this day? Well, I’ve to say that I really never did something like that before. All completed missions were pretty different from this. It was a special lesson on fighting approach anxiety. But I still understand my hesitations, as doing this is not very much my kind of style. But on the other hand that’s no reason not to do it, as it is instructive and give’s me more experience. I’m pretty sure I could have done better … I mean anything else would have been better ;-) Again I realized it’s not so much what you say but how you say it.
If you have EC in advance and you are smiling you will always get a “Thank you!”.
The most important thing for me is … I fucking did it! I just did it … BAM … and now I’m proceeding in the SLC.
There are many further sources I want to try practically after this – especially Mystery-Method, DeAngelo-C&F-Style, Gunwitch …
I’m not willing to deny my personality … I’m seeing this stuff as experiments from which I will take certain elements and install them in my behaviour/personality … but only in a congruent way!
I’m also starting to get a more clear picture of why I’m doing this. I think it’s 50% for sexual reasons and another 50% for defeating THE FEAR … maybe this is even more important to me. I hate fear, I hate it to be afraid of something I know it’s not worth to be afraid of. And there is definitly no reason to be afraid of a beautiful woman! But also I’m realizing that this topic isn’t about women actually … it’s about society, about status-thinking and about the most inner part of my soul!
CU
Right now I’m at work, but in less than fifteen minutes I’m going to take a break. I’ll invest one hour to make the rounds through my town. It’s late midday and the sun is shining – best conditions. I’ll approach eight women and say something nice … that’s it! I’m not going for whatever-close. I’ll just wait as long as it is natural, so if she is willing to react, she will get a chance.
To complete that mission today, I decided yesterday during one of my midnight-strolls. This is just fucking over-due and I definitly want to complete SLC this summer!
Yesterday I watched a part of Tyler Durden’s RSD-Seminars … and I just love that guy!
Eight women and I will compliment on whatever … I know from experience that 60 minutes isn’t too long. So I’ll have to hurry … I'm already wondering about how I’m going to handle that. I’ll post my report afterwards.
Okay … let’s go! (Yes my hands are moisty and I feel nervous … :-)
----------------------------------------------------
DONE!
Okay, so in advance to raise no expectations … no close at all – nothing! But … again a really interesting and mind-staggering experience after four month of abstinence from day-time-cold-approach-training. I actually approached more or less successfully eleven women, that was about 50% of all good-looking women who were not in company with a man.
#1: she passed me – I looked at her and snapped, about to say “nice shirt” – but during that , she turned her head away and probably didn’t take any notice of me at all.
#2: a she passes me I say “nice top!” – she reacts with cautious “mhm”
I’m realizing, that I have to get somewhat more attention in advance, especially when the girl is passing me and is not expecting to be approached by a stranger.
#3: she passes me … “nice necklace!” … nothing.
#4: she passes me – “the shirt looks good on you!”. Wow … she actually smiled!
#5: In a book store. She’s looking at a book. I approach her from the side “your bag looks good on you!” she: “what!” (as she didn’t understand me) me repeating what I said. She sais “Thanks” and smiles.
Well, I also should speak loud and clear! …
#6: I snap … “your shirt looks very good on you!” … nothing but slight smile
I’m beginning to wonder wheather snapping is the appropriate means for getting attention.
#7: She’s distributing postcards among the passengers and wants to give me one. I refuse … “Thanks but you look really nice today!” … somwhat cautious “thanks”.
Afterwards I wondered if the word today could be perceived as critical, as today means “maybe not yesterday” … doesn’t matter. I mean that was weird at all :-D
#8: “nice shirt!” … slight smile
Now, I’m realizing that I’ve got a blockade. I always get that during those missions and the important exercise is to over come this blockade.
#9: A two set in the outdoor area of a café. I approach them smiling “Sorry, I don’t want to interrupt you. But I have to say, you are the most beautiful girl I’ve seen today!”. EC! She says something like “Oh … well …. So, thanks …”. me: “have a nice day”
Sometimes I really would like to have a cam pointing on me for analyzation afterwards. I also wondered if “girl” was the right term to use, as she was rather a woman than a girl … but on the other hand, there was no right or wrong term I think … I’m sure I came across as a mixture of weird and cute.
And … one shouldn't ignore the targets company, especially if it’s a 2-set!
#10: drugstore … I see her entering it … I follow her … I tap her shouler (yeah KINO) and say “well, that pretzel looks phantastic on you!” … she seems somewhat bemused and says thanks.
Nice opener though!
#11: same drugstore … I say “Those shoes look really cool!”. Funny thing is, this time I was actually somewhat stuttering, but it was my only honest compliment this day!
So what can I learn from this day? Well, I’ve to say that I really never did something like that before. All completed missions were pretty different from this. It was a special lesson on fighting approach anxiety. But I still understand my hesitations, as doing this is not very much my kind of style. But on the other hand that’s no reason not to do it, as it is instructive and give’s me more experience. I’m pretty sure I could have done better … I mean anything else would have been better ;-) Again I realized it’s not so much what you say but how you say it.
If you have EC in advance and you are smiling you will always get a “Thank you!”.
The most important thing for me is … I fucking did it! I just did it … BAM … and now I’m proceeding in the SLC.
There are many further sources I want to try practically after this – especially Mystery-Method, DeAngelo-C&F-Style, Gunwitch …
I’m not willing to deny my personality … I’m seeing this stuff as experiments from which I will take certain elements and install them in my behaviour/personality … but only in a congruent way!
I’m also starting to get a more clear picture of why I’m doing this. I think it’s 50% for sexual reasons and another 50% for defeating THE FEAR … maybe this is even more important to me. I hate fear, I hate it to be afraid of something I know it’s not worth to be afraid of. And there is definitly no reason to be afraid of a beautiful woman! But also I’m realizing that this topic isn’t about women actually … it’s about society, about status-thinking and about the most inner part of my soul!
CU
