goofed Day6

okay ... as I'm anonymous anyway I'll be just straight honest. yesterday was a total mess ... a disaster. I didn't fulfill my mission and I fucked up my date ... I don't know what happend to me but in the middle of our so far entertaining conversation I got sucked up in a state of hyper-introversion ... I don't want to analyze now why that happend but the result was that I canceled the meeting quite abrubtly and said good bye. well, she's nice but I don't think she'll understand that.

but before the date I strolled through the city realizing that I'm just not able to give a compliment to a woman I'm not emotionally connected to ... maybe I'm too much of a perfectionist but there was something within me strictly refusing a to give a compliment without being totally honest ... ?! even when I saw a woman garbed individually I had no idea how to produce a compliment out of what I saw. I mean most girls don't garb in a way worth to be complimented - they just copy each other ...

on the other hand I don't want to lay the blame on womankind for my disabilities! maybe I should have just walk up to ten women in a row telling them "nice shoes!" and see what happens ... I'm pretty sure I should have done that at least.

I'm not going to give up on Day6 ... forget it! I already did several cold approaches ... I can do that too! but these problems brought me pretty much to a core question ... do I want to lie for the sake of women?

at least I discoverd a new way of scanning people around me. as I wanted to detect a woman as soon as possible to observe her and create a compliment, I discoverd that it's very interesting not to focus on people 10m away but more than 100m ... that's a totally new perspective.

well I did a actually one cold approach ... the best about it was that I DID it ... the rest ... oh my god (a real classic fucked up first cold approach in three months) :-D

many very fruitful phases of my life begun with such days ... I can do it - and I will!

planning Day6

... I'm back!!!!!! well, at least for tomorrow ... there is a girl, well, and I really really like her and I like her more every morning - so I don't know how that's going to affect my "game".

tomorrow I'm going to have a non-romantic date with the very same lady from Day2 (she's still in her 3yrs-LTR). So I'm not going for a KC but for an entertaining evening - whatever that means. her personality is somewhat different from mine, so I thought to myself a little warm-up in advance will be of good use for rapport-building with her. last time it worked not too bad and now that I haven't been in any high-voltage communication-state for a long time I might depend on it.

so what will I do ... complimenting women ... really I have no idea why, but high-speed-generation of honest and individual compliments is none of my stregths. and that's a damn shame! because after having read the Day6-challenge I immediately realized the importance of this skill ... on the other hand I originally drew my date's attention on me by giving her a compliment about her scarf during a tutorial in front of more than twenty students - yeah ... that's irony.
... there is hope!

tomorrow I will pay an honest compliment to at least eight attractive women!
- one woman before work
- one woman during work
- five women anywhere
- my date

I will compliment bearing in my mind:
- I'm not expecting anything back ... not even a "thank you" - NOTHING!
- I won't sustain the approach ...
- I won't run away after giving the compliment / I'll give her a chance to react
- if she reinitiates communications I'll go for a name/#-close (business as usual)
- when I give the compliment I'll look straight into her eyes (color?)
- and I won't forget about fucking kinoing - kino kino kino !!!

tomorrow I'll write down my experience ... ;-)