hey everybody!
i fully completed my mission and it was indeed a very interesting experience.
in the past i have already approached women on the street successfully. but those approaches have been rather spontaneously. that's the first time in my life that i planned doing this. honestly, today i wasnt that much in the right mood to do that, as i am bit tired and so. but it was definitly the right decision.
so i took the bus to the local main station. went inside the building ...
1) Anna / book-,magazine-store within the building
she's looking at postcards. i position myself beside her examining the postcards myself.
then i open with "that's a nice postcard" (it was a very boring card indeed, so it was meant funny). first she remained somewhat self-contained. we talked and i figured out that she needs a present for a friend who leaves germany for australia - so this present should remind him of germany. i made some suggestions and she especially warmed up, when i suggested her composing a CD with german musicians. well, it was a nice talk. not sure if she would have given me her number. i didn't try to #-close as i lost my interest in her during the conversation - she was sympathetic, but too young and not my type.
Great Warm-Up!
2) Romina / street, infront of a phone-shop window with handies layed out
she was looking at the handies. i walk beside her and say "that's a nice handy". well somewhat like before. we start talking about handies, what she's working and such. then we both realize, that we've talked before ;-) well, damn it, i approached her some months ago when she was waiting for a bus at the main station. so chances are she considers me a weardo (well 200'000 is not too big i guess - her hair was red back then). i offered her having a coffee with me - but she refused ... job. well i gave her my number ...
but again i think the conversation went very well. also i started to feel very confident - that was amazing! no nervousness will be there during the next approaches!
handy means cell-phone!
3) Johanna / sitting on a bench in front of a mall and ... waiting for her boy-friend :-(
so that was a special one. all women i approached today were good-looking but she was really damn good-looking! so that's what happened. she sits on the bench listening to music.
i didn't walk up to her straight, but more indirect to make it seem more spontaneous. i pretended walking past her, ignoring her and then suddenly stopped by her side and asked her "Hey. Sorry but do you have a tissue for me?". She says no - smiling of course and refers me to the nearby subway. well, i didn't figure on this. so i leave her, enter the subway and get me a napkin. i go back to her opening again with something like "wow ... fortunatly i got one ... actually i just pretended to be the son of gerhard schröder (former german chancelor) - otherwise i might have had to buy something". well she laughed and i think i went on talking about what music shes listening to (House). she actually agread to let me listen it with her ear-phones and what i considered very funny - she was worried that the piece of music she plays to me might be not good enough - so, first, she searched for a nice one. again it was a very relaxed and funny conversation. when she gave me her hand because of exchanging our names, she even let hers longer in mine. but just when i tried to #-close her boyfriend came back. i greeted him smiling from distance and walked on.
now my confidence was on the top. this one i liked the best today!
4) young mother searching for a book for her 3 year old child
she was looking at some books for children. i took "momo" and said "that's a very nice book for children". she agreed and we had a nice little chat about books for children - i got my theories about that, so i didn't have to lie about that. that's all.
5) Nadine / Eating pizza outside a PizzaHut
Well she was also damn good-looking! Very sexy - nice hair-cut - well, she works at Zara. this was quite a funny one - and i couldn't have done it that way without my priviously gained confidence. i walk up to her - again not straight - but indirect. and i say something like "oh hey ... sorry ... this is very galling to me ... but i have no money with me and i'm very hungry! would let me have a bite from your pizza?" you know what! she gave me her salami-pizza! but as i didn't actually wanted to eat something i tried to refuse by admitting that i am a vegetarian (i really am). so she put off the salami and i ate that pizza and we had a smalltalk ;-) after a while i said goodbye and went off.
6) ? / in a bus
well that was a nasty one - but it didnt felt nasty at all! she sits aside from me. i start with "do you know if this bus drives to the university?". well she obviously wasnt a student and actually right at that point i knew that any converstation would lead me nowhere. but you know what ... i didn't care ... and the bus was fully seated and there would be people overhearing us. it just didnt matter to me. so i got me a gum and went on with "you want one?" - well of course not. so i told her about the benefots of eating gum - neutralizing of acids ... blablabla ... that conversation was pretty handicapped ... i didnt even consider her behaviour rude or something. actually i pittied her for narrowing herself with her concrete-like bitch shield.
there have been further spontaneous conversations and such with the old women selling the tickets for the local theaters (as i do have a date tomorrow anyway with a beautiful lady) a (male) student at the bus and a girl at the central.
after this mission i felt real good and i was extremely communicative. and i wouldnt have been if i hadnt overcome my inhibitions today. i'm thinking about doing this regularly ... independent from Stylelife Challenge.
Critics:
1) i should have tried to #-close anyway - just for testing.
2) well, maybe i should have just greeted her by her name ...
3) should have asked her for her last name, as i know she's at StudiVZ
4) that was okay
5) i dont think she would have given me her number ... but i should have given her mine, remarking that i do owe her a favor
6) she said "you seem to be searching for someone to talk to or a girlfriend"
i answerd somewhat like "well, yes of course, why not :-)"
she replied "but i have a boy-friend"
and i said "you know i meant girl-friend in a more platonic sense" (i didnt actally say platonic, as i dont think she knows that word)
instead i should have replied somewhat like "no problem, i'm gay anyway ... ;-)" that would have been more funny.
i liked that day!!!
